Kalau kita marah, kita bakal dimarahi

Mungkin tanpa kita sedari, kita selalu meninggikan suara kepada adik-adik kita.Dan kemudian kita akan dimarahi kembali oleh ibu bapa kita kerana meninggikan suara terhadap adik-adik.  Kalau dengan kawan-kawan, susah betul untuk kita menzahirkan kemarahan kita.  Takut hilang kawan agaknya.

Dari situ, kita patut belajar satu perkara, kalau kita marah orang lain, bersedialah untuk diri kita dimarahi orang lain juga.

Kalau kita dimarahi orang lain, apa kita rasa?  Kadang-kadang mungkin ada sedikit suntikan keresahan apabila kita yang menjadi mangsa marah kawan kita.

2 tahap lain sebelum marah

Pertama sekali sebelum kita boleh marah orang lain, kita perlu sabar. Jadi jika orang itu buat kita marah, kita perlu sabar dan teliti dahulu kenapa orang itu berbuat itu dan ini terhadap kita. Mungkin dia ada masalah lain atau mungkin… apa-apa sahajalah kemungkinan lain.

Keduanya kalau dia masih melakukan perkara yang sama sampai membuatkan kita marah, bagi amaran terlebih dahulu. Bagi saya inilah yang paling penting sebelum kita hendak marah. Kita tanya balik diri kita, ‘pernahkah aku memberi amaran kepada dia supaya jangan buat perkara itu dan ini?’

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Everyone is a leader in some way, from a husband who took the role as the leader of his family to leaders of society. Great leaders exhibit consistent traits while incompetent one share the same lack of aptitude. Therefore, it is very crucial for us to reflect on ourselves- identify our weaknesses and work on them, so that we are prepared to take the roles of being a leader in the future, thus, avoiding ourselves being a liability to an organization.

After reading few articles about signs of incompetent leaders and why leaders fail, I can safely say that a number of factors pointed in the articles demonstrate a reverse of great leader trait in a book written by Jim Collins entitled Good to Great: Why Some Companies Make the Leap…and Others Don’t. To summarize, Jim Collins use an analogy of a bus to represent an organization. The bus’ destination is the goal of the organization while the driver can be regarded as the leader. The first step is to get the right people into the bus and to place them in the right seat. Getting the right people into the bus is as crucial as getting the wrong people out of the bus for established organization. Finally, set the destination (goal) and work towards them.

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Berikut adalah 5 tips bagaimana berurusan dengan lelaki ajnabi. Tips-tips ini telah dikongsi oleh seorang sahabat yang amat disegani oleh kaum lelaki dan kaum wanita. Semoga dengan mengamalkan perbatasan hubungan ini, akan lebih mensucikan hati kita dan hati mereka. Sama-samalah kita menjaga hati…

1. Elakkan berurusan dengan lelaki - Selagi masih boleh dan berpeluang untuk minta tolong daripada perempuan. Kecuali dalam hal seperti dalam hal repair kereta, repair laptop dan lain-lain. Disebabkan limitation kemampuan wanita dalam hal tersebut, maka terpaksalah juga akhirnya minta bantuan daripada orang lelaki.

2. Kalau terpaksa berkomunikasi dengan orang lelaki, gunakanlah medium perantaraan dalam bentuk tulisan seperti SMS, e-mail atau nota kecil. Gunakan perkataan-perkataan formal,bukan bahasa pasar. Contoh :maaf(bukan sorrie..), terima kasih(bukan time kacih..). Lagi satu, tak payahlah buat smiley face ke =),gelak ke (hihihi..), dan lain-lain yang kurang berfaedah.
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Dalam dunia ini,
Kita tidak punya sesiapa kecuali diri sendiri.
Tetapi dalam kita bersendiri,
Kita beruntung kerana mempunyai seorang sahabat yang memahami kita.
Sebagaimana kita mengharapkan keikhlasan dan kejujuran seorang sahabat, begitu juga dia.

Tetapi kita sering terlupa akan hal itu.
Kita cuma mengambil kira tentang harapan dan perasaan kita.
Kita rasa dikhianati bila dia tidak menepati janjinya.
Kita tidak memberi dia peluang untuk menerang keadaannya.
Bagi kita, Itu alasannya untuk menutup kesilapan dan membela diri.
Kita terlupa, kita juga pernah membiarkan dia ternanti-nanti..
Kerana kita juga ada janji yang tidak ditepati.

Kita beri beribu alasan, memaksa dia menerima alasan kita.
Waktu itu, terfikirkah kita tentang perasaannya??
Seperti kita, dia juga tahu rasa kecewa.. tetapi kita sering terlupa.
Untungnya mempunyai seorang kawan yang sentiasa di sisi kita pada waktu kita memerlukan dia.
Dia mendengar luahan perasaan kita, segala rasa kecewa dan ketakutan, harapan dan impian kita luahkan,
Dia memberi jalan sebagai laluan penyelesaian masalah.
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bismillahirrahmanirrahim, subhanallah, amma ba’d,

assalamualaikum warahmatullah to all,

as of today, let’s talk about us muslims and the things that we seem to be taking for granted. how much do we understand the implication of embracing Islam in all aspects of our lives? i guess many can utter that Islam is ad-deen, meaning a way of life but not all of us know the real meaning behind it. it’s a cliche in today’s  world. a cliche that brings no real meaning to one’s heart that is clouded by his own ignorance. blind when he sees. i so hope that all of us are at least loved by Allah enough to be pardoned from being one of those who have hearts but don’t understand with them, those who have eyes but don’t see with them, and those who have ears but listen not with them. blind indeed many muslims are as i speak today.

dear valued readers,

there will always be a group of us who will rise up to injustice and there will always be amongst us a group that strives to deliver the message of Islam to the world, muslims and non-muslims alike. how much do you think is the price of our religious brotherhood if we can only think of finding differences between ourselves. common grounds seem to falter and break just because of small disputes or clashes of ideas. blinded by our differences i say we are. even as i’m writing now and while you are reading this, differences in opinions and views will not cease to arise. does that mean that we forgo our brotherhood which is of a much bigger importance just because of our small disagreement. blind indeed we are.

alas, humans’ desires are always endless, without horizon some can say. if and only if we can channel that trait to our hearts and minds, i personally think then we will be able to save our pitiful souls. ironic at times when i ponder and reflect on the matters happening around me, wars here and there, israelis killing palestinians and otherwise. they share a common blood running in their veins from our beloved prophet abraham and all mankind from adam and eve peace be upon all of them. yet, we fight and so true are Allah’s words in suratul baqarah, verse 36: “Then the Satan made them slip therefrom (Paradise), and got them out from that in which they were, We said: ‘Go you down, all, with enmity between yourselves. On Earth will be a dwelling place for you and an enjoyment for a time.’”

okay, that’s a macroscopic view. let’s scale down by a number of degrees to ourselves and our surroundings. how much as of today you look into the mirror and see only yourself and no one else in the reflection? of course if you’re alone, you’ll be only looking back at you yourself. try for once, look at yourself from another perspective. look at you and trace back through the history of your own self, stop not there but go farther beyond your ancestry to the days you think Allah created our father Adam of earth, still soulless. Imagine ok. now, question ourselves: what have i done so far that creates enmity between my brothers and me? i was once made of earth and Allah honoured me above Allah’s angels. my, oh my, aren’t we too arrogant that we dare to go against Allah’s order: “The believers are nothing else than brothers (in Islam), so make reconciliation between your brothers, and fear Allah, that you may receive mercy.”, suratul hujurat, verse 10. if we think we are right, the other part also does. look back at the ayah, remember above all our differences, we remain intact, inseparable by a bond much holier and purer than ourselves. remember that Allah ask us to clear our disputes because of the mere differences we have and put Allah first in mind, fearing Allah enough to conquer our ego and hope for the best as much for our brothers as we hope for ourselves. you do not believe till you love for your brother what you love for yourself.

i call upon all of us to ponder upon the message i’m trying to convey today and start to think more deeply while we are living our lives and interacting with others, lest we may cause trouble and therefore, invite Allah’s anger upon us. Oh Allah, grant us your love and redho for we seek nothing else except for your affection. grant us iman for only then we can see with the eyes you gave us and be blind not.

wallahua’lam. ma’assalamah. till next time.