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“Berapa ribu hantaran? Berapa dulang semuanya? Pengantin perempuan cantik tak? Pengantin laki kerja apa? Diorang honeymoon kat mana ye?” Allah, soalan-soalan yang sering didengari ketika menghadiri majlis perkahwinan. Kadang-kadang terfikir, adakah masyarakat kita terlalu materialistik ataupun ‘busybody’? Hehe. (Ini bukanlah generalisation, hanya segelintir masyarakat je yang masih berfikiran sebegitu.)

Mengadakan walimah adalah sunat dari segi hukumnya. Acapkali kita mendengar tentang persiapan yang gilang-gemilang oleh bakal pengantin dalam menghadapi hari bergelar raja sehari. Ada yang sanggup berhutang demi mendapatkan majlis perkahwinan yang dianggap sempurna. Ada juga yang kurang mengambil perhatian tentang adat istiadat perkahwinan yang  mungkin bercanggah dengan ajaran Islam. Berikut adalah beberapa panduan yang boleh diamalkan oleh bakal pengantin.

Berhias

Islam tidak melarang kita untuk berhias. Cuma, biarlah bersederhana dan menjaga batasan aurat. Dalam hal ini, bakal pengantin perempuan perlu memberikan lebih perhatian.

Kedua-dua pengantin perlulah mengambil tahu batasan syarak dalam berhias, misalnya pengantin lelaki tidak dibenarkan memakai emas dan sutera, manakala pengantin perempuan pula perlulah menutup aurat dan tidak berhias secara keterlaluan.

Firman Allah Taala dalam Surah An-Ahzab ayat 33 :
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I’m writing this note so that in future, if I ever forget the sacrifice done by my parents (naudzubillahiminzalik..) , I know that their love for us are infinite..

It was a usual weekly phone conversation with my mum, in fact I was late 2 days than usual to phone her. So today I decided to call her and she was in dyslexic school in Penang. I don’t know if I am too obsessed with ‘dyslexic’ word, but to be honest, I just can’t help myself. The dyslexic child is my sister, whom I love sooo much.  After a few months searching for the best education centre for dyslexic children in Malaysia, my parents finally found one in Penang. Alhamdulillah..at least it was not too far from my house.  My mum was telling me that she decided to enroll my sister into the school.  I was shocked, not because I was ashamed she’ll be in special school, but the fact that Penang and my house is not too short a distance, I was like asking my mum if she is serious about this decision.  She said that if this is the best for my sis, then why not?

At the back of mind, I was imagining the hassle that my parents have to endure if they were to send her there.. having to spend a lot of money on petrol and toll fee, enduring the massice traffic jam in Penang and other ‘perkara remeh’ .. if I were in their shoes, I would not want to place myself into troubles.  My dearest friend once told me that , “I know Yan, you never had a hard time in your life and you won’t bite off more than you can chew.”

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A lot of people seem to think that being in a relationship is the answer to the life’s most puzzling question, i.e Will I ever find happiness?

We seem to think that, when we get married or when we get together with the person we love, we will achieve perfect happiness and does not have to worry about anything anymore. We think that being in a relationship is the key that opens the door to the elusive world of happiness, which before is inhabited by all the other people, except ourselves. For us, by getting together with the person we love, it will be the imaginary ON switch that automatically gives us the perfectly blissful life.

The sad truth, it is far from all that. Sorry, but the world does not work that way. At least not directly.
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Kisah 1:

Lelaki ini adalah think tank di dalam Perang Khandaq.  Di Madinah, seorang muslimah telah mengambil hatinya…

Bukan sebagai kekasih..tetapi sebagai pilihan hati.  Pilihan menurut perasaan yang halus dan suci..pilihan untuk dinikahinya.

Tetapi Madinah adalah tempat yang asing baginya.  Madinah memiliki adat, bahasa, dan wajah-wajah yang belum begitu dikenalinya.  Pemuda itu berfikir, melamar seorang gadis tempatan tentu menjadi urusan yang pelik bagi seorang pendatang.

Mestilah perlu ada seorang yang akrab dengan tradisi di Madinah berbicara untuknya dalam khithbah…

Maka pemuda ini menyampaikan isi hatinya kepada sahabat Ansar yang dipersaudarakan kepadanya, Abu Dharda’.

“Subhanallah, walhamdulillah ..”, girang Abu Dharda’ mendengarnya.

Maka setelah dilakukan segala persiapan, beriringanlah kedua sahabat itu menuju ke sebuah rumah di penjuru kota Madinah.

Rumah seorang wanita yang solehah lagi bertaqwa.

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Wife Talks, Mother Speaks

Author : Laniaz

“A man marries a woman for four reasons: for her property, for her rank, for her beauty, and for her religion (and character). So marry the one who is best in the religion and character and prosper“. (Bukhari and Muslim)

I am sure all of us have heard this hadith before, and are familiar with it. We are encouraged to look for soleh and musleh woman to be taken as a wife. In deciding to marry a woman, our Prophet s.a.w asked us to give more weight on her piety than all three other characteristics. Yes, i surely agree. We certainly want a wife who is soothing to our heart.

For some men though, we have another criterium that we take into account before we decide on whether we will ask the girl’s hand for marriage. And from my personal experiences, i think this criteria is the most overlooked by women trying to woo their husbands’ heart.

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Al-Quranul Karim telah menggambarkan hubungan fitrah antara lelaki dan wanita yang diikat oleh satu ikatan perjanjian dengan Allah swt di dalam satu gambaran yang seni dan mengasyikkan serta menawan hati. Ia diibaratkan seperti hembusan angin sepoi-sepoi yang melahirkan ketenteraman dan ketenangan. Daripadanya berhebus-hembus bau harum cinta, rahmah kasih sayang di dalam konsep persefahaman yang sejati.

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Antara kilauan permata dan debu-debu pasir. yang mana satukah anda pilih? Pilihlah permata, kerana ia sangat berharga dan tinggi martabatnya. Wanita seperi permata, diciptakan oleh Allah dengan 1001 kecantikan. Namun, kecantikan itu perlulah disimpan sebaik-baiknya kerana disitulah ukuran martabat seorang insan bergelar wanita. Wahai kaum Hawa,jangan biarkan diri dianggap seperti debu-debu pasir yang berkilau ketika dipanah sinaran matahari, biarpun cantik, ia dipijak begitu saja. Jagalah aurat dan kecantikanmu kerana ia sangat mahal dan jangan sesekali biarkan dirimu menjadi murah…

Sayidina Ali ra menceritakan suatu ketika melihat Rasulullah menangis ketika dia datang bersama Fatimah . Lalu keduanya bertanya mengapa Rasulullah menangis.

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